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SEARCH FOR FREEDOM I was born and raised in the Netherlands. I feel that the continuing theme in my life is that I keep looking for inner and outer freedom. Going back to my childhood, I remember being 12 years old and laying out the plans for my life. (I remember where I sat, the promises I made to myself.) I decided that I didn't want to be confined in one job, one village etc. I wanted to be free to explore the world and myself. And that is what happened. In 1995, after years of extensive travel and sailing (South America, the Pacific Ocean, Europe) and study (culture, journalism, nursing and healing) and working as a professional in these various fields, I settled in California. SHADOW COACH Studying the Shadow side in ourselves was a logical next step for me because of my continuing 'search for freedom'. The question is: how do we free ourselves from the inner blocks and limitations that keep us stuck in having a certain life, acting out certain habits, meeting a certain kind of people over and over again? I have come to understand that freedom is being and loving who we truly are and working with that. No beating up on ourselves anymore! No condemning ourselves, labeling ourselves as wrong or inept. Or as Carl Jung said: "We cannot change anything unless we accept what is. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses us. Acceptance of oneself is the essence of the problem and the acid test on one's whole outlook on life." Indeed, it is after the acceptance that we can make (another) choice. Instead of reacting we are able to respond. In 2001 I found these ideas reflected in an intense training I received at the Debbie Ford Institute (JFK University) in California, and I see their importance for all human beings. Whether we have a magical life or whether we feel beaten down. Thus, I became a Master Coach in the Integrative Coaching. (Coaching that deals with our light and dark shadows. )I do love this work; it's about getting you to your own inner wisdom and supporting you in making empowering choices. COURAGE I do realize that it takes courage and devotion to take on coaching: to look at ourselves. It isn't always easy, especially when we are in the middle of a transformational process that helps us become more of who we already are. Therefore, I honestly feel honored when coaching-- to be with people who want to connect with their authenticity, who want to own more of themselves! And, the 'reward' is so big. We feel that we are living a fulfilled life, firmly and lovingly connected to ourselves and our own inner wisdom. That has a tremendous effect on our life and on the lives of the people around us. It certainly has on mine. DIVORCE COACH I saw great results no matter the situation people where in. Therefore I became a Divorce Coach as well. (Working with the shadow side when going through divorce or separation.) Assisting people who want to get rid of the pain, who need to heal after their loss worked incredibly well. We can use the loss to heal our old and new wounds. We can reclaim power and joy and freedom! It is amazing to uncover the stories we used to fit into a partnership, into the society and to figure out how we operate based on fundamental beliefs that are hidden in our subconscious (who would have known?) In this coaching it is wonderful to feel ourselves shift from the victim in any way or form, into an empowered person. It is so liberating to look at all that we hide from the world and ourselves, and to carefully explore it with a trusted coach so we can put it to use when we need it! The effect of this coaching work on our children, our loved ones and our communities, on our careers, on our expression, on our beauty is visible. Everybody is happier. That moves me. DATING COACH Being seasoned in the shadow coaching and the separation or divorce coaching, I began to understand that we all need practical tools handy to (re)create great relationships. I see that there is a big need to have them even before we look for a partner. In short, this coaching is about 'the happier you are with yourself, the better the relationship is that you will create'. INNER WORK I used to think that if I did inner work, I would be done after a while and my life would be perfect. I don't think that way anymore. Resistance and blocks are part of living. Really, they are the doorways to more understanding and more freedom or more love. So instead of being annoyed with them, denying them, distracting myself from them, I now try to welcome them. I find the courage to deal with the feelings over and over again. I never get tired of challenging myself. I am willing to change, grow, and learn rather than holding on my established beliefs and practices. Now, I know what to do with blocks and with myself: Shadow work, Integrative Coaching, Divorce Coaching have taught me the tools for life. And I will show them to you, too. Seeing what I run into (in my own life my fear is never far away..) I am truly full of admiration and compassion for anyone willing to look at themselves. Therefore, I always strive to make these coaching sessions as safe as possible. Warmly, Mooniek Try a free sample session of about 30 minutes on the phone! Home| Divorce Coaching | Dating Coaching | Life Coaching |
