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The continuing theme in my life is that I keep looking for inner and outer freedom. I was born and raised in The Netherlands, Europe. At 12 years old I laid out the plans for my life. I remember sitting on the stairs in the morning sun making passionate promises to myself. I decided that I wanted to be free to explore the world and myself. And that is what happened. I traveled extensively in Europe and South America. I sailed the oceans for five years (The Atlantic Ocean and the Pacific Ocean) and visited many remote islands. I completed various studies like journalism, became a registered nurse, and studied different ways of healing. Becoming and Integrative life coach, Blueprint shadow coach As an Integrative coach, I studied the shadow side in people. It was a logical next step for me because of my continuing search for freedom. The question was: how do we free ourselves from the inner blocks and limitations that keep us stuck in repeating the past over again, getting into the same situations, having certain habits, and meeting similar kind of people? I have come to understand that the first step towards freedom is accepting and loving who we are. Simple words and huge concepts. Psychiatrist Carl Jung said, "We cannot change anything unless we accept what is. Condemnation does not liberate; it oppresses us. Acceptance of oneself is the essence of the problem and the acid test on one's whole outlook on life." Thus, no beating up on ourselves anymore! That complicates so much! No condemning ourselves or labeling ourselves as wrong or inept. Indeed, after the acceptance, we can make conscious choices. We enable ourselves to respond instead of giving in to an emotional reaction. In 2001, I found these ideas reflected in an intense training at the Debbie Ford Institute in California. I continued and became a Master Coach in the Integrative Shadow coaching called Blueprint Shadow coaching. It's about integrating our best and our worst, getting the advantages and disadvantages from every trait. It's amazing how much wisdom we have and listening to it helps us make new choices that fit us. Indeed, I now deeply understand that changing the world starts with changes within. Courage to start a coaching process I realize that it takes courage to take on coaching. Not everyone dares to look at themselves. Therefore, I honestly feel honored when coaching-- to work with people who want to connect with their authenticity and to own more of who they already are! Their reward is so huge. How about that feeling of living a fulfilled life, firmly and lovingly connected to ourselves and our own inner wisdom?! This has a tremendous effect on our life and on the lives of the people around us. It certainly has on mine. Becoming a divorce and separation coach I have seen people get great results when they integrated their shadows, no matter the situation they were in. Therefore, I continued training in the shadow in order to become an Integrative Divorce coach as well. A divorce or a separation from people or situations brings out our dark side. How do we deal with that side of ourselves? Coaching people who want to get rid of the pain and who need to heal after their loss works incredibly well. We use the loss to heal our old and new wounds. We reclaim our own power, joy, and freedom! Are you interested in taking back your spirit?! It is interesting to uncover the mind stories we use to be able to fit into a marriage, a partnership, or a society. In the divorce coaching, you shift from feeling like a victim (in small or bigger ways or forms) into a person with creativity and passion with a coach you trust. The effect this divorce coaching has on our children, our loved ones, our communities, our careers, and our personalities is immediately visible. Everybody is happier. That moves me. Becoming a dating coach Being seasoned in the Integrative Shadow coaching and the Separation or Divorce coaching, I began to understand what we need to know so we can have great relationships. I see that there is a big need to have the proper life tools even before we look for a partner. The happier you are with yourself, the better the relationship you will create. My own inner work I used to think that if I did inner work for a few years, I would be done after a while and my life would be perfect. I don't think that way anymore. Resistance and blocks are part of living. Really, they are the doorways to more understanding, to freedom, and to more love. So, instead of being annoyed with them, denying them, distracting myself from them, I now welcome them. I never get tired of challenging myself. I am willing to change, to grow, and to learn rather than holding onto my established beliefs and practices. I know what to do with myself. Integrative Coaching, Blueprint Shadow coaching along with Separation and Divorce Coaching have taught me the tools for life. And I will happily share them with you. Did I tell you that I always strive to make these coaching sessions as safe as possible? Warm greetings, Mooniek Try a free sample session of about 30 minutes on the phone! Home| Divorce Coaching | Dating Coaching | Life Coaching |
